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Magickal Backlash: What Causes It? (Part 1)



Magickal backlash is a common event for many practitioners, and can cause problems in one’s daily life.

Sometimes it needs to happen in order for us to get what we need, other times it is something that can be avoided with the right techniques. This article will focus on what is necessary blowback and what is not. I will give you some tips for better rituals to help with backlashes in the next article.

Necessary Backlash

There are times that we have unexpected events from ritual. It may be good or bad. I don’t believe that Karma and the Rule of Three is applied at these times. I believe in action and consequences, and feel that a practitioner must accept the consequences of whatever magic, summoning, or energy that is sent out during a ritual. We can’t always know what the action of these consequences are until they happen. For example, you may send out a spell to destroy a person – it may work, but in the end the person cursed may become better for it, and eventually thrive.

Here’s a list of things that can count as necessary or typical backlash that may happen when doing ritual.

  1. Justice. There are certain beings that their price to work with you is to do a type of cleansing. This may require that if you did similar things as the person you are asking for retribution against, then you may experience the same curse until your “karma” has burned off. The curse may not work if you have the wrong person, or they are found innocent. One being who will do this is Hekate. The deities/entities that are representatives of Eternal Law must follow it, in return you must accept this.
  2. Growth. Many practitioners ask for a better life, a better partner, a better job, etc. Sometimes when we ask for things to be better, we are introduced to troubles and mayhem in our life. Usually this feels like a curse. Some people lose their job, home, or even their family. This is to help your growth, and usually your life will right it self for the better. If you resist though, there is a possibility that things may go wrong until you allow for certain events to happen and you take control of your life and situation.
  3. Making Room. Similar to growth, it may cause chaos in your life until you accept it.  It’s similar to clearing junk out of your house. This may happen if you banish, bind, or cut cords with a person – chaos in your life is going to rearrange your relationships before settling down.
  4. Payment. Despite the belief that many people don’t owe anything to the deities or entities that they work with, there is always an energy exchange of some kind. While incense, cakes, wine, even blood may entice a deity/entity to be summoned, this is not the final payment. They may require more worship by working with them more often, have you tell others of them (spreading their “fame”), but more likely than not they want you to do a favor for them. These are all types of an energy exchange. I have learned that it is easier to find out the details before agreeing on a payment. They all require an equal exchange of what you are asking. Whoever you are working with will acquire their payment, even if it is later on. Your life may be in chaos until the payment is made.
  5. Wording – You Get What You Asked For. This is a difficult one, because it is similar to a preventable backlash – except you do get what you ask for. For example, I told Hekate that I didn’t want Her help, because I wanted to stand on my own two feet and didn’t want to use Her. This did not sit well with Her. I lost my friends, family, and community – even my Guardians were not allowed to help in a lot of areas in my life. I have since then apologized, and told Her I do need community and help. I meant well, and received exactly what I wanted, but it was not the intended outcome. It taught me a lesson in humility and the need for community – but it also taught me my strengths and weaknesses. This was an unexpected outcome, but I did get what I asked for.
  6. A Deity/Entity/Energy is Already Involved in the Situation. There are situations where a person either asked for something, or has cast a spell, and wants it reversed. While there are safe ways to reverse certain spells, some need to run their course. When we interfere with workings that need to run their course, we can sometimes receive a backlash . This especially happens if we cast another spell that is doing the opposite of the original ritual without reversing or dispersing the first working. Be aware that some people have cursed themselves, or are cursed from another person, or even a deity. This is a lesson for everyone involved, and is something that is not preventable. If you become involved and make a decision to do whatever it takes to reverse a spell that needs to run its course, you need to accept the consequences. It is possible to reverse these types of spells, but to do it prematurely can take great sacrifice. From personal experience, I can tell you it is rarely worth it. This is because the person didn’t learn their lesson; they will be ungrateful and even start blaming you for all their woes. My best advice is once you realize what is going on to walk away, even if it is friends or family. The spell will run its course, and when the specifications are met the spell then it will disperse.

Preventable Backlash

There is backlash that can be avoided. Here are some types of backlash that may be avoided.

  1. Wording. Wording is very important. Sometimes how you word a spell will effect it differently than you expected. For example, you may ask for a car that runs and will be low maintenance. What you may end up getting may not be a new car, but a junky looking car with all the specifications. The same goes for love spells; if you ask for a handsome lover that has passion and money, you may get a man that has other women on the side. Or it may be short lived. You just never know, so I would suggest being more specific.

    Also, there are some words that mean something different in the past than what we use now. You may want to look in a dictionary or thesaurus for the history of a word. The linguistics of a word can make all the difference in your spell, especially if the deity/entity was from a certain time period.

  2. Romantic/Sexual Spells. This one can be tricky, and why I don’t do sex and love spells on a specific person. There are many things that can happen. It can be successful and both parties are satisfied with each other, or it may end in disaster where one party doesn’t want to be in a relationship any more and the other partner does. It can be either the spellcaster or the other person that does not want to break off the relationship. There is a possibility that it may lead to stalking or abuse on the partner that doesn’t want the relationship. When you cast a love spell, you may cast it on yourself – especially if it something you strongly desire. We all can cast the spell of love on ourself when we really want it.
  3. Wrong Target. Sometimes you may use the wrong target in your ritual. Depending on if you called a being related of law, or a justice, they may not choose to help and even collect retribution on the practitioner calling them. Also, some people have such beings working with them, so they have protection or warnings from these beings. This has happened to me when a coven asked Samael for unwarranted retribution, and they ended up with the consequences. This is also why I would check out a person’s motive, and consult with my guides, before joining in on a spell.
  4. Return to Sender. There are people that know there is a curse put on them, or they may do regular banishing. One way to banish things is to return it to the person that sent the curse or the entity. It is unfortunate that many people mistake a return to sender as an attack on them, when it is an actual an attack on theirself. One way you can identify a return to sender is that like events that you have placed on another person begin happening to you. Some people can detect another’s personal signature, and may mistakenly believe that the other person has cursed them in return. There is a possibility that both parties do a return to sender to each other multiple times, and may end up building up and creating backlash for not just the practitioners involved, but also those around them.
  5. Using the Wrong Correspondence. There are certain correspondences that have gained power through belief. Depending on what tradition you belong to, or what type of spells you are doing, there are correspondences that work better than others for whatever you are doing. A popular correspondence is candle colors. For example, the color black is traditionally seen as evil, but black itself is the absence of color. Because it is absent of color, it makes for a great candle color to banish or exorcise entities. However, black in the Western philosophies is evil and denotes death (note that death is white in Eastern philosophy). If you are using Western magick , then black candles can be used to open gates to Cthonic planes, including the Underworld and the Abyss. This is also a popular candle color for general summoning of Cthonic deities (like Hekate, Samael, Azrael), demons (Asmodeus, Beelzebub, and Ba’al), and the dead. (Note: These deities and entities do have specific colors, but that is for you to find out. Black, while used for summoning, is a basic color and is a lot more effective with other specific colors to the deity/entity.)

    Sometimes we do the wrong the correspondences. For example, I found that even using the wrong incense can call up different deities if they share titles. One such mistake is the calling on the Archangel/Deity of Lucifer with Jupiter incense. This will bring a whole another entity that I call Jupiter-Lucifer – the god Jupiter/Zeus. If you want to call in the rebel Archangel Lucifer, you would use Frankincense. I have also seen many people describe Lucifer with long white hair, blue eyes, and even a lightening bolt on the forehead, come to them as a lover or guide – this is actually Jupiter/Zeus (remember He loves to trick people into loving him, or for sex). Here is the only mention I have seen of Jupiter being called Lucifer before Venus (I am still looking for more substantial evidence), which helped me when I dealt with the wrong entity that created chaos on in my life:

  6. Unexpected Results from Intentions. Intention is very important. Like wording and details, it directs our Will in ritual and life. However, sometimes the result of our intentions, even if they are well meaning, may backfire. For example, I helped a woman send a healing spell to her son in prison. He was not receiving the healthcare he needed for an infection. After the spell, both of us were very ill for a few days. I knew that she had asked Hekate for justice and to punish whoever had set up her son for being charged with a felony. I found out later that even though she did not believe her son did it, that he was in reality guilty. The backlash came because she asked Hekate to punish whoever did the crime, and we were essentially going against the spell she cast by trying to heal him. This is also why I interview people now that want a curse removed, an entity banished, or an exorcism. Sometimes people get what they deserve, and it is not our place to help them, but let them learn.

I cannot express enough that no matter the outcome, we must take responsibility for our own actions. I have tried to reverse spells that I set with very strong parameters, or I have seen my curses actually benefit people that I despise. I have since then learned to accept the consequences of my actions. However, it has been a good learning experience. As the saying goes, “Practice safe hex!”

-Arachnia Stoneskull

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Birthdays: The Highest Holiday



The highest of all holidays in the Satanic religion is the date of one’s own birth. Every man is a god if he chooses to recognize himself as one.” -Anton Szandor LaVey

Today is my birthday. I turn forty today, which is pretty amazing considering all I have gone through. I have been thinking about the past thirty-nine years this last year, but this year I decided to try something different – I am looking forward.

I really feel that I have lived in the past a lot of my life, and this has held me back. Though looking back the past five years, I can honestly say I have started to live my life more and I am proud of myself. I have overcome hardships such as homelessness, leaving an abusive relationship, and beginning down my personal path to power. However, it is time to move on to bigger and better things in my life.

I still have a lot of small goals that I need to fulfill, but are a lifetime commitment. This is mainly because they deal with the mental illness and other traumatic events. These don’t go away, but on some level they can be controlled. My biggest goal regarding this is trying to see if I can change the way my brain thinks – enough that all the negativity in my life will be deprogrammed. I am taking notes, so I can share with others when this happens.

My other life goals are more simple and more for me. Love; a happy and healthy family; getting healthier physically, emotionally, and mentally; being able to fully understand my spiritual path and helping others on their path are the major goals I plan on focusing on the rest of this lifetime.

I do have plans of teaching more, opening a temple, and even doing a few workshops. I have the ambitious plan of trying to unite all the local area Pagans, so we can network and build a community. These are some of my more ambitious and harder pursuits. I want to see all these come to fruition.

Though I am not a Satanist, I am a Dark Pagan, I do agree with Anton LaVey’s view of birthdays. We are our highest priority, even if we choose to give ourself to others. You are important. Only you have the ability to make your dreams transform into reality. You are the god of your own world. Take pride in yourself and celebrate yourself every day. This will bring you the joy and passion that you need to fulfill your goals.

Hail Thyself and stay true to Self!

Arachnia Stoneskull

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Curses, Hexes, and Jinxes: How to Prevent Them and Protect Yourself



I admit that I am pretty amused when I see hexes and curses thrown around on the internet like confetti. Most people have no real power in sustaining a decent curse and it starves itself. Occasionally, there is the all out witch war. These are worrisome, and can spill over onto people that have nothing to do with the argument, but even then these wars seems to dissipate pretty quickly.

I have done several things to protect myself from these things. I won’t be discussing my more advanced magical practices, but thought I would share a few tips when it comes to curses and hexes.

What is a curse? It is something that is created to destabilize a person’s well-being magically and physically. Curses can come from anywhere, including our self. Yes, we can curse our self. This is why I don’t always recommend a “return to sender”. Double cursing one’s self is very unpleasant.

Here are some very simple ways to deflect and banish curses, jinxes, and hexes.

  1. Black Candle. When banishing energies that are created not only by emotions, but thought forms, I like to use the black candle method. You may dress the candle with anointing oils/herbs and scratch wards/sigils into the candle. If you are not that advanced, hold the candle in your hand, imagining the type of energy and intention you wish to instill in the candle. I like to place the candle in a central room with a lot of traffic, such as a living or dining room. After blessing the candle with intention, light it stating its purpose to banish. Then allow for it to burn completely out. Small candles work just as well as large ones, depending on how much negative energy has accrued in the house.
  2. Saging, Incense, Diffuser. Certain scents can “chase” away negative energy. Using any of these tools will help with neutralizing energy, but will not rid your house of entities or some thought forms.
  3. Sheilds and Grounding. The most useful techniques to know is how to shield and ground. Grounding helps with the emotional aspect of your body, while the sheilding protects you from being bombarded by thought forms and curses. My favorite types of shields include those that neutralize any energy that hit the shield, or those that have the curse roll off like teflon.
  4. Tinctures. These are potions and drinks that you can make to either take internally, pour, or spray to protect your space. I have used Florida Water, Entity Mace, and other tinctures for protection on the body, too. You can also use tinctures to enhance wards.
  5. Wards. These are symbols and sigils that can be used as protection and defense. There are many kinds of wards. There are wards for banishing, exorcisms, to keep away bad health, etc. I suggest doing wards on all portals. This includes doors, windows, toilets, drains, doorjambs/doorways, etc.
  6. Blessing. Blessing yourself, your house, and those you love can be a powerful protector against the common magician/witch. When you do a blessing, name the qualities you wish to bring into the blessing.
  7. Magical/Blessed/Consecrated Items. Many witches and magicians use consecrated and blessed jewelry or clothing for protection. This can include pendants, brooches, rings, bracelets, jackets, piercings, etc. Even tattoos can be consecrated for protection.
  8. Incantations/Rhymes/Mantras. This can be a very effective way to rid one’s self of curses and hexes, especially one’s we put on our self. I’ve known people that have had silly rhymes that were just as effective as a large ritual. This is because it is based on belief, will, and intent.

Armed with these basic techniques, you should be able to ward and defend yourself from curses and most other attacks. It is often said, where I come from, that the best offense is a good defense. This holds true even in magic. Remember to use magic responsibly and stay safe.

-Arachnia Stoneskull


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Evocation of Hekate



This is one of my earlier evocations when I began writing rituals. This particular evocation I wrote for Hekate for the Night of Hekate, which is celebrated on November 16. This was included in the first public ritual I led. It was a very powerful and humbling experience that introduced me to Hekate in Crone form.


Evocation of Hekate

Great Goddess, Hekate,

We evoke thee and invite thee

to join our circle this evening.

We come to you in humility

to celebrate your greatness

this dark night.

Hekate, Goddess of Three,

Gentle Maiden, Holy Mother, Wise Crone,

hear us this evening.

As we walk between the worlds

into the depth of self discovery,

guide us.

Great Mother

Great Teacher

Great Goddess

We thank the

and welcome thee into our Circle.

Hail, and welcome!

So Mote It Be.

(November 16, 2012)

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My Experience with Full Possession



This is an essay I wrote on my Facebook page for Arachnia’s Web a couple of years ago. I thought I would share it here. I cleaned it up a little and made sure the details were correct. I learned a lot through this experience, and hope you find it useful too. Here is my story about the first time that I was fully possessed by force:

Cold rainy days seems to trigger memories more so than “happy” sunny days. This is not a bad thing; I just go more inward, thinking more about where I am at and how my experiences shaped me. This morning I lit the “Goddess” incense for Neith, my Matron, when I had a memory of my first full possession.

Possession has been forefront in my mind lately because there seems to be a rash of entity problems in my town lately – more than usual. True, it is near Samhain – Halloween – but it is becoming more of a problem. It is almost an infestation. This has inspired me to write a series of articles regarding possessions, while outlining a small handbook. Both the articles and book will be available later this year.

I could not, unfortunately, find the journal I kept the original experience of my possession. This is from my memory, which still impacts my practices to this day:

Back in 2012 I was working in a Wiccan temple. Part of my training included opening myself up to psychic experiences through the use of the candle void meditation. It’s relatively simple, you draw a circle for protection and call upon whoever you are working with; at this time my High Priest suggested I work with the titles of The Lord and Lady. I would say a prayer of gratitude and protection to the Lord and Lady, then proceed with the meditation for 15-40 minutes, depending on my concentration. At this time I had still suffered decades of insomnia, so I would do my meditations around in the late evening around 11 p.m., or early morning around 3 a.m., or 5 a.m.

This particular morning I did the usual; I made a cup of tea to drink after the ritual for calming, set up the simple altar of a blessed white candle, Indian Temple incense, and my notebook with my prayer written in it.

I drew a circle with my finger, since it was a simple meditation. Then I called on the Lord and Lady:

“Lord and Lady,

I humbly come before you

to ask for balance;

I seek stability in my life.

I shall hold up truth; not deception.

I shall show compassion; not judgment.

I shall show generosity; not avarice.

I shall be unpretentious; not prideful.

I will love myself, not out of vanity

But because I am your creation,

made of your love.

I shall respect myself,

And I shall respect others.

Thank you for your blessings, Lord and Lady.

Blessed Be.”

After saying the prayer, I lit the candle and stared at the flame. I allowed my thoughts of the moment to enter and leave my head, without dwelling on them. I did this until I could concentrate fully on the flame. After several minutes of staring at the flame is usually when the mind begins to drift, or become tired. At this point I either begin to fall asleep, or feel my body vibrate.

This time I felt my body vibrate, but I concentrated on the candle, not allowing myself to become disconnected from my body. I became more calm, while my body became heavier and my mind clearer.

I was facing South this particular night, with a white candle. As I became more relaxed, a sudden pressure came into my body, starting from my head. As it descended along my spine and into my feet, I tried repeatedly to take a breath, but my lungs were like iron and immovable. I was fully paralyzed, though I could see straight ahead at the blank wall and was fully aware.

I was beginning to panic several seconds later when I realized I couldn’t move my head, along with the loss of breath. It was like time within my body had stopped. I wanted to call out, but couldn’t. That’s when I heard a voice – deep, yet feminine. She spoke like a thousand beings simultaneously vocalizing. It was frightening, not because it was malevolent, but because it felt old and vast. The voice triggered images of stars and darkness; a Divine chorus of Gods.

“I am Neith. You are to make your dedication to me on the next Full Moon.”

It felt like eternity, but the goddess left my body. Slowly I regained use of my muscles and could breathe again. I counted back from ten, as I realized I was in a type of trance and needed to wake up, even though I felt awake.

I have since then dedicated myself and worked with Neith. Though I have been possessed on several other occasions, I have never experienced such a complete, alien, and terrifying possession as that one. There are some things in this world that we have no control over, and it is wise to learn and accept the responsibilities that come with learning magic and meditation.

-Arachnia Stoneskull

September 14, 2016

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Cognitive Dissonance and the Spiritual Path



The first time I received any true information regarding my current belief system, I became broken. I had just found out that Samael and Abrasax, as a Mormon, were the gods I cried out to for help. Though it had been nearly a year since I met Them, and They were helpful, I thought they were separate beings from the Christian God. I had, up until that time, blamed all my problems as a child and throughout most of my adulthood on YVWH. I felt like my world was falling apart, and it was hard to come to the terms with all the times I really needed someone, but heard only silence. The times where I was in situations that They could have prevented. It didn’t make any sense, and I needed to make sense of it. I couldn’t believe with how nice They had been to me that they were involved in my perception of Them being an uncaring God.

This type of feeling and situation is called cognitive dissonance. Cognitive dissonance is when you are presented with new information that contradicts previous information – and as a result causes the mind to resist new information. This resistance is a type of protection, because for some people all they have is their worldview. This is why religious people are so resistant to new information, once they accept wholly what they believe. It upsets everything they know, and they do not have the ability to keep an open mind.

This goes into the saying that if you have a full cup, you can’t fill it – meaning you don’t have the ability to learn anything new if you have solid preconceptions of information presented. Sometimes, we need to empty that cup and keep an open mind.

So, how does this effect us in magic? It effects us greatly, especially if we are searching for answers and truths. We cannot find either if we have concrete beliefs. There are beliefs that fall under ethical and moral compasses, which are subjective, but I am talking about ultimate truths.

For example, one of these truths is that everything is dynamic, not static. Everything is moving as a cycle only to recycle and begin again. This is a truth that may help with cognitive dissonance. Keeping an open mind and looking for clues, which may lead back to the beginning with even greater understanding. This seems to be a theme in my life, and in many others. I think that is why we have a hard time “breaking karma”. Once we understand what our lesson is, it goes in deeper. For example, one of my lessons is boundaries; I attract people that seem to like me, but in reality are only using me because I have a generous heart. My lesson now, because I have closed up, is to open up to being generous again – but this time have boundaries and know who is really my friend.

It has been harrowing, and full of sorrows, the path that I have taken. There has been a lot of cognitive dissonance, especially since I work with “poisonous” entities such as Samael and Sutekh (Set). Spiritual poison may transform or destroy, and that poison is the root of cognitive dissonance. Cognitive dissonance is asking us to review our thoughts and beliefs. This can lead to periods of despondency and feeling hollow. While those are some of the negative effects, they are healing – it allows for our cup to empty before becoming full again. The trick is to realize you are in a slump, and choose a direction. It is in choosing the direction, and carrying out actions to go in that direction, that is difficult. It is easier to wallow in self pity and just see what happens, but this is also detrimental spiritually.

Along any path, especially when dealing with magic and the occult, you will have these feelings. It is natural to have cognitive dissonance, especially when breaking down old values to add new ones.

Cognitive Dissonance Symptoms

There are many feelings and events that happen when you have cognitive dissonance, especially in a spiritual sense. Here are few things you may experience.

  1. You may hear something and automatically dismiss it, not because you know it from experience, but because you believed something you were told, or that you read. This happens a lot, especially if there is a religious aspect. I consider religion a set of rules and beliefs that deal with your spiritual life; essentially dogma. Whether most people want to admit it, or not, dogma is in almost every practice, even atheistic cults.
  2. You feel torn, or at war, with yourself regarding any of your beliefs. You beliefs become your identity, and that is problem. You can still have a foundation of self, and have several identities working together. I call these labels and titles. It is how we, and other people, perceive ourselves as. Drop the labels and get to know yourself. We all have contradictions, whether through societal programming, biology, or mental health. It’s okay to admit this and reconcile with your whole self.
  3. You feel personally attacked every time someone mentions you or your beliefs in a negative light. It isn’t about you when someone expresses their opinion. Learn to take things less personally, if you have this problem.
  4. Everything seems dull. You feel lost and don’t know where you stand. You have conflicting emotions on what to do. These are common feelings of many people. This is where you need to choose something, anything, to start living again. It doesn’t even have to be big. You can start any type of project, and it should facilitate a purpose in your life. The key is to keep going. If you finish a project and don’t feel fulfilled, try another project. It’s difficult, but it does help in the long run.

There are other symptoms, but these are some of the most common.

There is no real relief from cognitive dissonance. Most people either suppress it, even if it is constant, or avoid anything that causes the problem. I suggest avoidance only until you are ready to face it, but not complete avoidance. That can eventually lead to a mental breakdown, especially if the information keeps presenting itself.

Cognitive dissonance can be a great tool to see where you are at in your development, and even help to open new avenues of thinking. This could include enhancing empathy, too. You just need to be aware in this state that sometimes things are not as they seem.

Remember that one of the biggest lessons and skills on the Left Hand Path is to take charge of your life, which cognitive dissonance teaches us how to do. Though it may seem difficult, you have the strength to carry on. The human spirit can become indomitable through adversity.

May your path be illuminated through the darkness. Hail Thyself!

-Arachnia Stoneskull

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Magical No Contact Orders



Are you having trouble with a person, even after cutting cords and binding them? There are, admittedly, times that binding and cord cutting are not as effective as you wish them to be. Doing a Magical No Contact Order may be the answer to your problem.

What is a Magical No Contact Order?

A Magical No Contact Order is a binding contract that keeps both parties from interfering in each other’s business. It is a way to “cease, and desist” all magic workings against each other, whether it is positive or negative. Neither of you will be able to use magic against each other. You can do this with organizations, such as churches, too.

While both parties cannot use magic against each other, this also includes family, friends, acquaintances, etc. This is what makes it such an effective defense.

I use this with magicians I work with or friends. I also use it against people that curse me, or seem to become a problem. Prevention is better than war. I consider it a great last defense if a person or coven won’t stop with magical attacks, also.

It should be noted since it is a no contact order, that means both parties are not allowed to do magic against each other. If you choose to use magic against the person or organization that you have a Magical No Contact Order with, then it will become null. In fact, taking action can cause a huge back lash if there have been certain spells that built up during the course of that time.

With all of that in mind, it is a serious spell that requires integrity, no matter how angry you become after the fact. It is better to do this with people that you will no longer have established contact with, simply because it is easier to forget about them and not be tempted to punish them later.

How Can I get a Magical NCO?

It is relatively easy to ask for a Magical No Contact Order. However, it is not guaranteed, like many spells and workings. You will be going to a deity that deals with balance. In this case, I prefer Anubis, but there are many other deities that deal with Justice and Balance.

You will need to do a ritual and  burn a piece of paper with your request. However, if you are an astral walker, then you may go directly to the Deity to make the request. You will need to be very precise with the names and what you expect from the MNCO. If you need help, you can go through a mediator like Samael or Michael. You should know immediately if your request was accepted. It may not be. If that’s the case, you may need to rethink about what part you played in the situation before requesting the MNCO again.

I also wanted to add that this is also the safest way to deal with other covens. This can be a precaution, or you can do it when attacking begins. I find it easier to do a Magical No Contact Order rather than binding. Especially when I know that a person or group is out of control.

I will not include the ritual for this. I feel that is it personal for each individual and that it is a truly unique experience for each practitioner. Therefore, you need to let your intuition and spirits guide you in this matter. If you work with deities, you can ask for their help in doing the ritual or in assigning a mediator.

Remember to use magic wisely. Stay safe.

Arachnia Stoneskull

January 20, 2018; 10:22 a.m.

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How to Build a Visual Meditation



Visualization meditations are one of my favorite tools for astral traveling and contacting other beings. I am going to give you the steps for setting up your own visual meditation, so that you can travel and communicate on your own. You should find this very useful in amplifying your magical practices and rituals, too.

Building A Visual Meditation Ritual

This is a simple template for building your own meditation. It is easier than you think, and very versatile; you may add or skip any steps that suit you. This is a suggested outline to help with visualization and contacting the subconscious. It is good for beginners and intermediate practitioners alike.

  1. Get Comfortable. Decide what position you will be in and stay in it. Some favorites of practitioners are sitting straight in a chair, sitting cross-legged, and lying down.
  2. Deep Breaths. You can decide how many works for you. I prefer four breaths, myself. Go here to learn more about meditative breath.
  3. Count Up. Count from one to ten. I visualize darkness that lightens up gradually to a path. This is a way to create change in your subconscious; this lets it know that you are changing from every day thought patterns to focusing on the meditation itself.
  4. Open the Door. You will come to a door after the pathway. This is a ‘door to the subconscious’. This is where you will cross the threshold of worlds.
  5. Location. This next part will be the location of where you work. Be sure to be detailed in your mind. If you are doing it with others than leave the details vague so they can use their own imagination.
  6. Event. This is the part where you do your work. You will want to make sure that you are fully into the meditation at this point, because there will need to be a lot of concentration on your working. This is the ‘body’ of the meditation. You can make this as vague or detailed as you wish since it is your own working.
  7. Close the Door. After you finish what you planned, then it is time to go back to your body and the physical plane. You will do everything in reverse, so you will leave the location back through the door that you came through.
  8. Count down and Ground. You will count back from ten to one. As you start to ‘wake’, make sure you feel like you are in your body. Wiggle your fingers and toes; stretch your body. When you feel like you are back on the physical plane, then open your eyes.

Here are a few articles I wrote that contain sample meditations:

Ritual Preparation, Part 2: Energy Work

Karmic Contract

If you are worried about doing it by memory, you can record the meditation and play it back during the ritual. You can also get a friend to take you through the meditations.

Have fun and play around with this formula. Remember that each meditation is designed to help you personally, so find what really fits for you. Enjoy!

Arachnia Stoneskull

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Psychic Vampirism: Dispelling the Myth


I am a type of vampire. My strengths include energy work, which to be effective I need to be able to give and take any type of energy. This energy may be emotional, mental, sexual, magical, an illness, etc. This may be a surprise, but even empathy is a type of vampirism, because empaths feed and utilize emotional energy.

Though my other articles focused on defense from vampires, I wanted to dispel the stigma of vampirism.

Many people call themselves vampires, or practice vampirism as a type of fad – or worse because they want to imitate the vampires seen in movies. This is not a game or a fad. Some of us do blood and energy work, which is heavily tied to death and the Cthonic deities. This is also how I received my knowledge of previous articles – I know from both side of the “coin” what vampires can or cannot do.

This may sound frightening if you buy into the idea of Love and Light, but without Darkness and Chaos, there is no existence. This article is targeted towards those with vampiric talent, but also the curious. I have my personal reasons for outing myself – one is that I prefer to be transparent.

I am going to discuss the psychic vampire aspects, not blood (sanguine) vampires, in this article. I’ll define what a psychic vampire is, a scope of abilities for beginners to know, and briefly touch upon ethics.

What is a Psychic Vampire?

What does it mean to be a psychic vampire? It is quite simple, instead of feeding and working with blood as a life source, a psychic vampire feeds off various energies. Psychic vampires are the most common of vampires.

Many healers work with vampiric energies, as they need to connect with a source and channel (feed off) that entity’s energy. The fact that they too feel healthier during the healing season is a sign that they have taken in the essence and magic of that being. This includes Reiki, which taps into the All to receive healing energies.

The reality is that all people, on some level, are psychic vampires. Not all people have the same abilities, but anyone can “feed” off energy from a concert, the calmness of a forest, or hanging out with a best friend. When you go from one emotional state into another that is reflective of the environment, you are feeding off the emotion and mental energy of the place – and sometimes the very signature of the place or event.

Most people are only basic psychic vampires, and don’t have certain gifts or skill sets. It is nothing to be afraid of; we all can be amplifiers or drainers of other people. This is why I suggest boundaries and shields for everyone.

I will be addressing more about latent vampirism and also empaths in upcoming articles.

What Can a Psychic Vampire Do?

Practicing energy manipulation and feeding is one way of finding out the different things you can do. Here is a brief list that I have discovered, along with the help of others:

  • Feeding for extra strength
  • Healing
  • Creating a bond
  • Glamour
  • Enslaving
  • Mind control
  • Changing moods
  • Manipulation of an individual or a crowd
  • Growth
  • Death, Physical
  • Death, Soul (Souleater trait)
  • Learn magic abilities from others by touch
  • Control Spirits through vampirism (Souleater trait)
  • Feed off of Spirits and Entities (Souleater trait)
  • Stabilize emotions (yours and others)
  • Giving energy to another person

As you can see, there are many uses for vampirism. The uses can be beneficial or malignant, depending on your intentions.

I do refer to some of these, such as healing or emotional manipulation, as reverse vampirism, because a person gives energy back versus taking it. However, you need to know how to take in order to give.

Ethics and Vampirism

Let’s talk about ethics. Ethics are purely individual, but I will discuss some of my ethics. I am a Souleater, so I don’t need a lot of energy to maintain my spiritual and physical being. I have the ability to feed off of entities, too. However, not every vampire has these abilities. This may be why my ethics differ from someone who is only a succubus/incubus, empath, demon/angel/djinn, or normal psychic vampire.

Here are some general rules that I go by, for example:

  1. CONSENT. This is my first, and biggest, rule. I feel that consent is very important. There are times that consent is not needed, such as for offensive or defensive magic. However, I will get consent for healing, as some people do not want to be healed. I go by the rule, “Your body, your decision”.
  2. No Innocents; No Children. I will not hurt children or innocents. An innocent is not someone who is without guilt. It is someone who does not have the capacity to understand how the world works, or who does not have the ability to control certain biological functions. I define children as any being that has not reached menses or first seed. The latter view is Celestial, according to the gods, angels, and demons that I have worked with over the past few years.

These are the two main rules that I have when practicing most types of magic, including vampirism. I find these rules cover all my personal moral codes, too. Objectivity is pretty important – ask yourself why you are doing it. As always, ethics and morals are personal choices.

Though very brief, these highlights should bring some understanding into psychic vampirism. Stay Thirsty and Hail Thyself!

-Arachnia Stoneskull

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